So we’re entering into almost a year of this pandemic and It’s safe to say that most people want a clean, organized, functional, and harmonious home—but now that our homes have become our office / school / gym / bread making stations / zoom happy hour spot, it’s easy to turn a blind eye to that pile of clothes that’s been piling up on that chair (you know the one) or layer of gunk accumulating in the tub that you’re both pretending not to notice.
Even in the best of times, running a home takes work (cleaning, cooking, shopping, scheduling), throw a global pandemic in the mix and eek! Plus, we all have different ideas about which chores need to be done, how they should be done, and how often they should be done. Though I can say with certainty that I do know the way chores should be done.
Here’s the hard truth, when housework isn’t divided in a way that seems right to each individual, the feelings of unfairness and resentment can cast a real shadow on an otherwise fun and loving relationship. In fact, in a survey of recently divorced people, disagreeing about housework was cited as one of the top three reasons for the dissolution of the marriage. (for real!) I’m sure you won’t be surprised to find out that when we take on an unfair share of labor in the home, especially if you’re working from home, it can mean your work productivity suffers which causes stress in your home AND work life. It could even mean missing out on career or other opportunities. And yes, (spoiler alert), when a too-large load of housework falls on someone’s shoulders, there’s usually a woman attached to those shoulders.
But don’t worry, we have good news. Open communication and honesty about what you are and are not willing to do around the house will most likely not only get your home in working order it might even revamp your relationship!
Keep this in mind while you’re talking: The goal here really shouldn’t be a perfect 50/50. There’s no such thing as a totally equitable division of labor because it will eb and flow just like everything else in your life.
The truth is, only you can decide (along with your roommate, partner, or family) on the division of labor that makes the most sense for your lifestyle, skills and interest, schedule, and priorities. It’s a conversation and a process and you should feel really proud of yourself just for taking this step!
Brought to you by:
Crystal Ortiz, Realtor / Co-Founder Locals Property Group